Saturday, 17 August 2013

A couple of things...

I know it wasn't that long ago, but remember I told you last week about being featured on Vogue's Facebook page?  Well there's something I want to say about it.

A day or so after that went online, I checked it again to see if anyone had liked it or posted a comment and found that quite a few people left lovely comments about my dress.  However on lady posted that she liked the dress but didn't understand the zip being put in 'backward' and another agreed with her saying that she also 'disliked' that trend.  Is the whole point in sewing not that you can make things to suit yourself and design and manufacture your own wardrobe?  If it isn't clearly I'm missing something and have being going about my sewing entirely wrong.  I accept that others have their own ideas and opinions, each to their own.  But I don't agreed that the facebook post is the correct forum to air that kind of view as they don't know me or my sewing style.

Secondly another lady left this as a comment:
"Next time, take longer than three hours so as to get the fit right; a pattern is only a guide; therefore, this dress could've been a bit longer."
To which I replied:
"I would disagree, the length is perfect for me as is the fit. I make all alterations on the pattern before cutting my fabric so I can have fast easy makes, esp as I'm a student and don't have much time to sew. 3 hours is more than ample to make a dress of any description."
I don't think this is a fair comment.  As most of you will have come to realise, I sew fast.  Some things I can make in as little as three hours, especially a Very Easy Vogue pattern others take me a few nights to complete, like my as yet unworn Gertie dress.  Most people I speak to both at work and online agree that having the ability to sew quickly is a good thing.  And I don't understand why this dress should have been longer.  I may be 5'8" but I'm 22 and if I can't show my legs on a summer day at this age then I don't know when I'll be able to!! This dress hits just above my knee, I fail to see what's wrong with that?!

What I've found most annoying about this is that the online sewing/blogging community is soo supportive, encouraging and never critical.  Yet these faceless people (the above commenter didn't even have a profile picture of herself) feel the need to write such things and find it acceptable.  That one comment ruined that whole facebook post for me, even although there were other such lovely comments that I appreciated greatly.

So sewing friends, am I over-reacting and taking this too much to heart, or am I right to be annoyed?

On another note, have any of you joined Look What I've Made?  I only found out about it when Minerva Crafts commented on one of my instagram photos telling me I could upload my projects there.  I've only just had a chance to check it out and I'm pretty impressed!  It appears to be a bit like Kollabora (you can find me on there here) but a little less graphic (you'll see what I mean).  It's super easy to use and upload to, so for the rest of the evening, that's where you'll find me!

I know this post became a bit of a rant and I do apologise for that.  I've been sewing up a storm this week, so expect to see new garment posts soon! 

14 comments:

  1. Oh Hazel, don't let those comments spoil the thrill of being featured - it was very special to be included in anything to do with Vogue and you should be proud! Try not to take their comments as though they're being negative to you as a person.
    Some online social spaces court controversy and encourage the like/dislike judgments. Some of these sights can make us very sad and negative about ourselves so do remain cautious about the sights you join and be kind to yourself.
    Think of it as though you overheard a couple of ladies chatting in a clothes shop - they prefer a different kind of zip or a different level of hem - so they make a brief comment and keep walking. Let them have their opinion, and you have yours. LOADS of people like exposed zips and above-the-knee dresses anyway!
    Good on you for having a wee rant in your blogging safe space!

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    1. Thank you for your lovely comment Nessa, it's made me feel much better! It's not made me feel negative about myself, just a little disappointed in another part of the online sewing community. Especially when so far all I've experienced are lovely thoughts and opinions. You would think living in Glasgow and wearing some of things I do I'd be used to the odd look or comment! :)

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  2. Yours is the second post about this type of thing in the past couple of weeks. Check out Yes I Like That's post here: http://yesilikethat.wordpress.com/2013/08/05/on-blogging-and-context/. OK Kathryn's post was more about the fact that her image was "stolen", but she also encountered the same negativity in comments.

    I think Nessa is spot on. It's just a different world out there. Fashion blogs and sites are so different to our little world. It's hard, but don't let it bother you. They would never say it to your face - the relative anonymity of the blogosphere makes it safer. Your dress is gorgeous. You love it. It's made to suit you and your preferences and no one can take that away from you! :)

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    1. Thanks Helen, I'd seen Kathryn's post and forgot about it until now. It's horrible that people feel the need to critise without really knowing the full situation (as in Kathryn's case). It's difficult not to let it bother you but I suppose it's a bit of a learning curve, it's certainly not going to stop me posting!

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  3. It's funny, but I think that sometimes when people see things in a forum like that, they lose sight of the fact that it's a person with feelings and quirks and preferences that's made the garment, not a machine. Just because your photo was featured isn't an invitation to judge or criticize. Sadly, the internet makes quite a few people forget the old adage, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all".

    I know it's hard, but I wouldn't take these to heart. These women are silly to find fault over things that boil down to personal preferences. I never would've thought your dress was too short, and I think it's pretty funny that someone did! At the end of the day, we sew for pleasure and to be able to wear garments that are to our liking, so it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks! Incidents like this always remind me how lovely our little corner of the internet really is, since this NEVER seems to happen on sewing blogs.

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    1. thanks love, I agree that the anonymity of the internet allows people to behave differently than they otherwise might. And the dress isn't short! It's actually quite a respectable length! It's so bizarre how this little corner of the internet is lovely but the wider environment isn't just as accepting :)

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  4. I agree with Nessa and Helen. Keep sewing the way you do, with your style and your enthousiasm, which make it unique! :)
    Hugs, Mary

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  5. Hello Hazel, I've been enjoying your blog for a short while but not commented yet. I love your sewing, your designs and makes. Your enthusiasm is helping me to find my sewing mojo again.

    There will always be people who have a contrary view and wherever you are or whatever you do criticism can hurt, even well intentioned constructive criticism, never mind the thoughtless negative comments you have experienced. Most people recognise this and think before they speak or post. Others don't as you've seen. I feel sorry for them as it's the easy route to sit on the sidelines and criticise. And I cheer for people like you who actually create something, commit themselves to a project and accumulate skills and experience. In your way you are making the world a better place, prettier, more colourful and happy, at least your site makes ME happy :D

    I'm sorry you're disappointed but some folk are disappointing specimens aren't they?. Let's be thankful that you are not one of them and make such a positive contribution to the sewing community. Thank you for inspiring me. Julia x

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    1. Hi Julia, thanks for your lovely comment! I'm glad that my small contribution is having such a positive effect on you. I don't know if it's just how I've been brought up, but I always endeavor to encourage rather than be negative towards everything I do and to those around me and it's a shame people can ruin it with one throwaway comment x

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  6. ugh, that's so rude! but don't let it get to ya, just let it roll off your shoulders. i get nasty sounding emails every so often at work, and now i just laugh to myself about them. (actually sometimes i read them aloud to my nearby coworkers and we all have a laugh.) i imagine those people would never talk like that to my face and it makes me chuckle how rude they can be over email or the internet. so don't be bothered by some snotty know-it-all. =)

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    1. thanks love! I was telling the girls I work with about it and they found it quite amusing that someone would take the time to write that! What made it better was that she had no profile pic on facebook which told me all I needed to know! :)

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  7. I like your dress, exposed zipper and all. And I think the length is perfect. Any longer might have looked dowdy on such a young girl. I'm 10 years older than you and am relishing what some say are the last of my miniskirt days. I appreciate the help I get from sewing communities -- a tip on pressing darts or something like that. But the random insult is not worth bothering with. Ignore people who can't offer CONSTRUCTIVE criticism.

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    1. Thanks for your comment Roxanne! I'm sure you'll still be able to pull off a shorter skirt for many more years! It's all in the styling! It's been a great lesson for me and I know that I can always rely on the wider sewing community for help and inspiration!

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